What does your love life, career, friendships, exercise routine, diet, and bank account all have in common? The need for consistency!
Let’s talk about the three areas of life that consume most of our energy each day; love & relationships, career, health and wellness. I’m going to break down each category and the need for consistency in each area. After all; if there’s no consistency in life, aren’t we all just riding a never ending roller coaster?! Change can’t happen unless improvements are consistent.
Love and relationships
Who has been in a relationship that’s great one week, and terrible the next? Sadly, I have and it’s not a good feeling. All relationships have ups and downs, but if you’re soulmates and joined at the hip one week, then arguing and distant the next because someone didn’t pick up the dry cleaning; this can take a serious toll on you and your relationship long term. A lot of factors go into a consistently stable relationship; and it depends heavily on the individuals, what they each stand for, and differing expectations of life. Relationships take hard work, compromise, and a lot of communicating. Even couples who have been married for 30 years experience inconsistency, as we are constantly evolving as humans. If you haven’t seen my blog post on boundaries last week, this will help understand why consistency in relationships is so important. If what we stand for is being challenged, conflict could be looming! Consistency takes commitment – from both/all (depending on who’s involved). In a romantic partnership; if one person is doing all the work to keep the relationship on track, while the other slackens off and doesn’t take it seriously, how can the relationship survive? Both parties need to consistently ‘check in’ on the relationship and ensure needs are being met and boundaries are not being compromised. At the end of a work day, who doesn’t want to come home to your safe place – your home! At the same time, this includes a stable relationship…because ya’ll know walking on eggshells is draining and pointless! For the singles, if the dating world was more consistent maybe we would all get out alive! With dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, or Grinder fast becoming the main way to meet new people, we take the plunge into the unexpected. Boy, do my girlfriends and I have some interesting dating stories 🤦♀️
Have you ever walked into work and your boss is acting like your best friend, then by lunchtime you’re receiving passive aggressive emails about the way you handled a client matter? I have! Not knowing where you stand with someone (especially the person paying you) can be very stressful. I’m probably living in a fantasy world thinking everyday can be consistently calm in the workplace, as we never know what life (and clients) can throw at us…but a girl can dream! Depending on your boss and the severity of the mood swings, I would recommend talking to them to gently let them know how you feel. What I think makes a great leader is someone who is approachable and can take conversations about the temperature of the situation. Of course, if you are dealing with a narcissist who doesn’t give two hoots about you or your feelings, keep the convo for your partner and whinge over a glass of wine at dinner (much safer). For any business owners reading, how is consistency important to you? We all hope for consistent growth in a business venture. Like anything, there will be good months and bad. But to see your continued success consistent across the board, isn’t this the aim of the game?! If something isn’t working or numbers are bad; investigate, research, do the math on how and why. Make changes & improvements, reassess, and evolve in line with the needs of the business. Same for beauty bloggers and YouTubers, I think we’d all be lying if we said the numbers didn’t matter. For some this is their bread and butter, and consistency is the winning factor. Isn’t this why we hit the Subscribe/Follow button, because we consistently love the content being created? Likewise when consistency in content is altered, we hit the Unsubscribe/Unfollow button!
Health and wellness
I’ve lost count of the number of gym memberships I’ve had…and didn’t use! Or the amount of workout gear I’ve bought, and never worn! Or how about the diets we put ourselves on, that last a week. Or drinking 3 litres of water one day, then barely a cup the next? Sound familiar? I will attempt to eat healthy for one day, but ruin it with a drive-thru cheeseburger meal, simply because eating healthy is not consistent for me. I have to try really hard to make sure I cook healthy meals each week (maybe it’s laziness), but complain all the time of low energy. Catch 22: I have to invest my time to create healthy meals full of nutrients, to feel healthy with lots of energy! I’ve had phases where I’ve really focused on working out and keeping fit, but phases are not consistent. I’ll go a month of exercising, then 6 month of nothing = not healthy! The problem is I haven’t found a healthy balance of moderation. If I committed to 30 minute walks every second day, I may find it easier to sustain. I sure do feel better physically and emotionally when I move my body in a consistent way. I’ll get there!
Maybe some of us relate consistency with boring routine. Depending on your personality you may love routine, others may live for spontaneity. Whatever the case may be, as long as your needs are being met (without compromising others’), it works! Those of us who live for routine can still feel the spice of life…it’s just in a more regimented and structured way. Likewise if you enjoy living each day as it comes and enjoy the high of last minute adventures, do you and enjoy…neither option is right or wrong!
When is consistency a bad thing?
- If you are in a relationship where you are consistently being hurt (or hurting your spouse)
- If you are going to work everyday consistently feeling flat, overwhelmed, or undervalued
- If you are surrounded by people that consistently make you feel less than who you are
- If you are consistently fuelling your body with fast food, lollies, and nutrient free foods
- If you don’t have an exercise regime in place to move your body – even walking a few minutes a day (yes, I will take my own advice 🙈)
- You get my drift!
Either way, when our perception of consistency is out of balance; we can feel all over the place, up and down, stressed, anxious, defeated etc. It’s not always an easy task, but finding your consistency is paramount to a balanced and healthy lifestyle.